We all know the expression "New year, new me!", both because it is used almost daily in the current language, and because of the always present hashtags or descriptions on Instagram. And let's be serious, this phrase is rightly used during this period because we all create different goals, hopes and expectations for the new year.
Nowadays we all think about things we want to do, to make certain dreams come true, thus creating a lot of resolutions for the new year. Of course, not everyone makes new resolutions. Some are looking at the new year as a new beginning for the things they are working on, a new chance for success or a fresh start. We can get excited about the future and our new or old dreams because the past won’t mind for sure!
One of the biggest mistakes I think people make is giving up on certain goals, just because they failed to achieve them right away. Inside, every mistake is a great lesson. And while people may not want to make mistakes in the New Year, the lessons they have learned will certainly help. So why give up after the first failure? What is more paradoxical is that many do it right after learning their lessons and when they are closer to success than ever.
It is said that every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end. By this, I mean that the beginning of a new thing comes from the completion of the previous thing. For example, summer comes from the end of spring, Tuesday comes after Monday and 3 o'clock after the end of 2 o'clock. There are many ways to look at things in life, but I think this quote is about as simple as it gets. Coming back, I think it could be about being done with something, taking your goal, dream or project to the conclusion, to the end. Somehow it's easy to start a goal, dream, project or just anything else. Finishing tends to be quite a bit more difficult. This is because during all the steps that must be taken between the beginning and the end, we may encounter difficulties or we may lose some of our initial enthusiasm, and this leads us to giving up, which I can not really call finish or the end. So we should probably cheer the new year, seeing a new chance for us to get it right (not to give up!).
Once Ellen Goodman, an American journalist and columnist who won the Pulitzer Prize in 1980, said something that made me change my perspective a little bit about the goals we set for the new year. She said ”We spend January walking through our lives, room by room, drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched. Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk through the rooms of our lives ... not looking for flaws but for potential.”. She's right, maybe most of the resolutions we make should value our potential, not necessarily try to change the things we don't consider good. I think it is much more efficient to highlight the good things than to tear down the things we don't like and try to build them from scratch. I'm not saying we shouldn't try to get better every day, but before we spend time changing things that may just seem bad to us, we'd better take care of our strengths and try to highlight them.
Unfortunately, problems with this concept appear when some of us fail most of their resolutions because they create unrealizable dreams, unfulfilled goals and sometimes crazy expectations. In March, most people have given up on their resolutions, and are stating that next year will be their year. “New year, new me” falls to the wayside and people totally forget about all those amazing promises they made to themselves to help them become a better person and live a better life. They say that next year will be their year, and this year will just be written off as not their year. That's not the best thinking process, because if they fail or lose their motivation, they don't have to wait until next year to try to get better again. You know that expression, don't leave for tomorrow what you can do today, so don't leave for the next year what you can start again tomorrow!
So, to conclude everything positively, I think that to have a fulfilling and successful year we should stay focused on our dreams and goals, develop a positive attitude, try not to lose interest (and if we do, to try to find a solution as soon as possible), and the most and the most important is: to not give up! I think what the new year brings will depend in large part on what we bring to the new year because we all already know that we don’t find the happy life, we make it!
Articol scris de Cristofan Theodora.
Editat de Minciu Ioana.